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I have always believed that loneliness is not just a feeling but an experience that shapes who we become. Almost everyone goes through it, but the intensity differs. In my own life, I’ve faced deep phases of isolation – whether due to health struggles like epilepsy or because of emotional disappointments. The search for love and acceptance is natural, but I’ve realised that if we let it control us, it can destroy our peace. For me, this truth came after many years of observing myself and others, and I now see loneliness as both a challenge and an opportunity.
Many people grow up feeling socially cut off, with low confidence and a constant hunger for affection. I was no different – my teenage years and early adulthood were marked by both medical battles and emotional disconnection. This often created a loop of wanting validation from others, especially in relationships, and when things failed, I was left in deeper pain. Loneliness activates the brain’s stress circuits, releasing hormones like cortisol, which make you restless and anxious. I’ve felt this personally when seizures or sleepless nights made me more emotionally vulnerable. Over time, these cycles affect memory, decisions, and even the way you look at yourself.
Wanting someone close is one of the most basic human needs. Our brains are wired to crave connection, with chemicals like dopamine and oxytocin rewarding us when we bond with others. But I’ve learned from my life that if you depend too much on external love, you become addicted to it – almost like a drug. I had phases where I desperately wanted closeness from people, and when I didn’t get it, it felt like a withdrawal.
Neuroscience explains this as the brain’s reward system overfiring, but in lived experience, it feels like emptiness that keeps pulling you down. That is why I now believe love should add to your peace, not steal it away.
Over the years, I realised relationships should never come at the cost of my inner balance. Without self respect and clear boundaries, I used to give too much, often forgetting myself in the process. It was painful to see that an extra dosage of giving from my side did not always mean people valued me in return. When self care is neglected, any connection can become toxic or draining. One can’t feel that during that time because hearty emotions dominate, but when the brain comes into play, it will clearly describe how you’ve been treated.
Neuroscience also tells us that setting boundaries reduces chronic stress and protects mental health. For me, this was not just a theory but a survival tool, because when my body was already battling seizures, I couldn’t afford to also carry unnecessary emotional baggage.
I’ve always considered myself a deeply caring person, maybe even to a fault. People like me (us) – who have an abundance of love to give, often feel the sharpest sting of loneliness. We want to give everything, but when it is not reciprocated, the emptiness doubles. I have noticed in my study that an empathetic nature makes people feel rejection and pain more deeply than a normal one. Brain science backs this, as sensitive brains have stronger emotional responses. Still, in my opinion, no one should ever trade the caring side for a colder heart.
One of the biggest realisations I’ve had is that being alone is not a curse. In fact, loneliness gave me space to think, research, and heal. When I was forced into long phases of isolation because of health, I hated it, but later I discovered it was shaping me. The human heart inside me still hates it, but the brain was using it. I used that time to study, write, and explore myself in ways relationships never allowed. Instead of getting depressed, I started seeing it as a gift. It is the time when the brain rewires itself, repairing stress circuits and creating stronger foundations for the future.
It’s easy to fall into repeated patterns – seeking love, getting hurt, and then repeating it. I’ve been there many times. But one day I realised that I was the common factor in all those cycles. The problem was not just the other person, but my approach to the destination. Only I was acting.
Neuroscience explains that once the brain gets conditioned to seek external validation, it repeats the habit automatically. To break that, one has to consciously change the way they loved – forcibly come out of desperation, more out of awareness.
Theoretically, it may be written in books, but it wasn’t easy; it made me see that cycles can be broken, and healthier ones can be created.
Another idea that has carried me through loneliness is faith, both in life’s plan and in myself. I often remind myself that life is already written in some ways, and our role is to walk the path with courage. When I was going through the darkest times, this belief helped me endure. Psychology shows that faith reduces stress and strengthens emotional regulation. For me, it was more than theory – it was the survival plan I had. I learned that loneliness is temporary, and with patience and self-love, even the worst phases can prepare you for greatness.
I didn’t write this article as someone untouched by struggle. I write it because I have lived through fire. My seizures have thrown me down, my loneliness has hollowed me, and betrayals have left scars I will never forget. I know the weight of emptiness, and I know how hard it is to fight when even your own body and mind seem against you. Yet it was in those moments that I found my deepest strength. If there is one reason I share all of this, it is so my pain might serve as a light for someone else. If even one person finds hope in my words, then every battle I endured has meaning.
True growth begins when you love yourself first. Everything else – relationships, friendships, even recognition comes after. And when it comes, you’ll be ready to handle it with strength, not desperation!
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